Talking about ourselves triggers the same emotion sensations in social networking or conversation just as talking about food or money.
the research shows that 40% of our everyday speech is telling others what we think or feel. Harvard University neuroscientists say “It feels so rewarding, at the level of brain cells and synapses, that we can’t help sharing our thoughts.”
“Self-disclosure is extra rewarding,” said Harvard neuroscientist Diana Tamir, who conducted the experiments with Harvard colleague Jason Mitchell. Their findings were published in the Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences. “People were even willing to forgo money in order to talk about themselves,” Ms. Tamir continued.
this is unbelieveable. now that you know what people LOVE talking about (their selves) this isproof that all you need to do to get someone to like you is LISTEN to what they have to say! it will obviously get them feeling good, thus making them like you. so like i’ve been saying this whole time. to get her to like you, shut up and let her tell you about her! tell how well this works for you, comment and let me know
they took the volunteers and played several “games” with money, they rewarded the volunteers with money when they talked about someone else and other things and were deducted money when they wanted to talk to themselves. people often chose to talk about themselves and willingly gave up between 17% and 25% of their potential earnings so they could reveal personal information. “We joked that this was the penny for your thoughts study,” Ms. Tamir said.
so here is a mission for you:
next time you are on a date, shut up and let her talk about herself. find out deep stuff, ask more than typical boring general “dating website” stuff and dig into her emotions.